Some adoption stories included a statement from one of the adoptive parents, stating that he or she bonded with their adopted child immediately. While that's true in some cases, for others it takes time to feel truly connected with their child. Laura Christianson discusses some of the other adoption myths that are addressed in the book 'The Post Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption'.
"Myth #2: 'I will like this child.' Of course we all plan to like our children. We are determined to like them. But many parents admit, 'I love my child but I don't like her.' The reluctance to like one's child can occur when parent and child have different temperaments, personalities and life experiences (particularly in the case of an institutionalized child.)"
The book's author suggests seeking help if weeks or months have passed and a parent is still not feeling connected to his or her child. She also suggests that parents go easy on themselves and realize that adopting a child creates a whole new dynamic. An adjustment period is natural and to be expected. Read more at AdoptionBlogs.Typepad.com.
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Labels: parenting, myths, bonding
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