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Monday, July 30, 2007

From China with Love

After six months of paperwork and eighteen months of waiting, a family in South Boston has been made complete. Chloe, a 15-month-old baby girl from China, has come home to her eagerly waiting adoptive parents.
"The People's Republic of China began a formal adoption program in 1990; 300 babies were adopted that year. The program has now grown to 12,000 adoptions a year..."
The eighteen-month wait was mainly due to the adoption process in China. The Chinese government carefully matches Chinese babies with American parents. But once they're notified of the match, the potential adoptive parents have just 72 hours to decide whether to accept it. Though the process was long and involved, new parents Claude and Nancy truly believe the Chinese government is doing its best to find homes for China's children. Read more at SouthBostonOnline.com.

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Friday, July 27, 2007

Adoptions Many Vulnerabilities

Everyone involved in the adoption process is vulnerable. The birth parents, the adoptive family, the adoption agency, and certainly the child are all taking on a certain amount of risk before, during and even after an adoption.
"When you take all of that vulnerability, and throw in a whole lot of emotions and big chunks of money, it is easy to understand how easily the situations can be taken advantage of. As much as we like to think that everyone working in adoption is in it because they want to help needy children, the reality is that adoption is a 'job' for many. There are many with good intentions and there are some lacking in the good intentions department."
Some birth parents and adoptive families feel they're at the mercy of adoption agencies, but there are things that can be done to limit the risk and vulnerability. Do plenty of research about adoption agencies and learn what "red flags" to look for. Ask a lot of questions. Don't feel embarrassed or pressured. You're making decisions that will affect several lives, and you have every right to understand the process and have your concerns or doubts addressed. Read more at AdoptionBlogs.com.

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Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Court Rules for Unmarried Adoptive Fathers

The Florida Supreme Court ruled last Thursday that adoption agencies must notify unmarried men when a child thought to be theirs is being placed for adoption. The ruling comes in the wake of a long court case involving an unmarried man who is trying to restore is parental rights for a boy who was born in August, 2005.
"The court's opinion says men believed to be a child's biological father must be notified of the mother's adoption plan, and that he has 30 days to file a paternity claim with the Putative Father Registry. If he does not file a claim with the registry, his parental rights may be terminated, the opinion states."
The Registry was created in 2003 to prevent birth fathers from contesting adoptions months or years after the adoption had been finalized. Heart of Adoptions, Inc. attorney Jeanne Tate called the ruling a "victory", stating that it will create more "certainty and stability" in the adoption process. Read more at ChronicleOnline.com.

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Sunday, July 22, 2007

Adoption Pamphlet Released

Last week, Missouri's Task Force on Adoption released a 26-page booklet about adoption. It's called a "step-by-step guide" for potential adoptive parents.
"[Attorney General Jay] Nixon said today the pamphlet was created to answer lingering questions that parents have about what can be a complicated process."
The booklet answers questions about adoption costs, time frames, options and more. Read more at ColumbiaTribune.com.

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Thursday, July 19, 2007

"Baby Hatch" Highlights Japan's Fears of Adoption

A "baby hatch" is a small door in the outside wall of a hospital that allows parents to leave their child if they feel they can't care for the baby. Japan's Catholic-run Jikei Hospital in Kumamoto is the first place in Japan to have a "baby hatch", and it's raising concerns.
"But the many vocal critics of the first 'baby hatch' in Japan are afraid it may encourage parents to opt out of their responsibilities. And legal barriers and prejudice against adoption in Japan may mean that children abandoned in the 'baby hatch' will be raised in institutions rather than by adopted parents."
Many cite Confucianism as a reason adoption is not well received in Japan. It places a heavy emphasis on a child's relationship with his birth parents and a reverence for ancestry. Adoption outside of the family line wasn't approved in Japan until 1989, and only a few hundred of these types of adoptions take place each year. In comparison, the United Kingdom, which has about half of Japan's population, approves three to four thousand adoptions a year.

Read more at Today.Reuters.com.

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Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Hair Care

One thing that many couples don't think about with a trans-racial adoption is hair care. A Caucasian couple that's adopting an African-American child is going to have a steep learning curve when figuring out to care for their child's hair.
"Taking care of your child's hair will take some extra work and effort, but it is important that you do so. Doing so will not only show respect to your child's culture, but will also help your child build a healthy self esteem."
One adoptive parent recommends the Jamaican Mango and Lime line of products for African-American children. She has used them for her children and has been very pleased with the results. Read more at Transracial.Adoptionblogs.com.

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Sunday, July 15, 2007

Russia Re-Opens its Doors

Months after international adoptions were unceremoniously halted, the Russian government has reaccredited seven U.S. adoption agencies, enabling them to resume their work.
"'We believe this to be a substantial step in the direction of the stability of Russian adoption,' reads a statement on the web site of the International Assistance Group, one of the agencies that was reaccredited. The statement appears along with a copy of the agency's new accreditation document from the Education and Science Ministry, dated June 27."
Eighty-one agencies have yet to receive reaccreditation, and it's unclear whether any non-U.S. agencies have been reaccredited either. The list of the U.S. agencies that are now able to operation in Russia appears in an article in the Moscow Times. Read more at TheMoscowTimes.com.

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Friday, July 13, 2007

Post-Adoption Support

Parents and families undoubtedly need support as they go through the adoption process. But the support shouldn't stop once an adoption is finalized and a new family has been formed. To this end, the North American Council on Adoptable Children has developed an extensive database of post-adoption organizations throughout the United States and Canada.
"Post-placement support is critical to achieving the goal of finding permanent, stable, loving families for children, as well as maintaining those families who have already adopted. Parents need information that will strengthen their families, and enable them to handle the challenges of adoptive parenting... Founded in 1974 by adoptive parents, the North American Council on Adoptable Children is committed to meeting the needs of waiting children and the families who adopt them."
The NACAC web site contains information about not only adoption support programs, but adoption subsidy resources, parent groups, and conferences. Read more at NACAC.org.

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Tuesday, July 10, 2007

UK Adoption Policy Backfiring

In 2000, Prime Minister Tony Blair introduced new "reward grants" in an attempt to increase the number of domestic adoptions taking place in the United Kingdom. Though adoptions have increased, they've increase so dramatically that many government officials are asking for an explanation.
"Critics say very young children are specifically selected - even before birth - by social workers to get the bonuses. It is believed that 1,000 each year are wrongly taken from their parents."
Liberal Democrat MP John Hemming has called the practice "social engineering". So many babies are being taken from mothers and families that there are not enough foster parents to care for them.

Read more at DailyMail.co.uk.

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Sunday, July 08, 2007

Handling the Stress

International adoptions are stressful. The adoption process in general, whether domestic or international, is stressful but there's often added stress in the international process.
"A prime example of severe adoption stress was created for families when Romania closed its doors to international adoptions. When this occurred, hundreds of families were caught in the pipeline, and their children were condemned to living in an institutional care environment despite the fact that there was a loving family somewhere in the world that had already developed a bond with them."
Home studies, adoption referrals, physician's visits, and travel to and from the child's home country can all begin to add stress upon stress. Husbands and wives need to be honest with each other, and seek counseling if they’re beginning to feel overwhelmed. Be prepared to experience stress before, during, and after the adoption process. But be prepared not to handle it alone.

Read more at International.Adoption.com.

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Thursday, July 05, 2007

Education Workers to Receive Adoption Stipend

New laws passed in Florida this week will increase the amount of money parents will receive for adoption. An amendment to one of the laws extends one-time payments to employees of schools, colleges and universities.
"'I see this as a very good thing,' said Naderah Salim, CEO of the Children's Network... 'Anything we can do that shows the families and the children that you are valued. This is a big step for families... The more resources we can put into the hands of a family, the better they can take care of the children.'"
Children's Family Network contracts with the Florida Department of Children and Families to care for foster children and facilitate adoptions in several counties. Though the new law has been signed by Florida Gov. Charlie Crist, the bill is pending approval of special funding.

Read more at News-Press.com.

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Monday, July 02, 2007

Choosing a Program and Country

For most people, the decision to adopt simply opens the door on a whole of world of other decisions that have to be made. Which adoption agency/program is best? Should we adopt domestically or internationally? A boy or girl? An infant, or an older child? By sharing some of her story, Erin hopes to provide some guidance to others who are considering adoption.
"...here are some tips on finding the right adoption program for your family. Decide what age and gender child you are hoping for. Determine what your 'adoption budget' will be, and what you can and cannot afford in regards to adoption fees. Determine how long you can manage to travel..."
Answering basic questions like these will help narrow down the almost overwhelming number of adoption choices that are available. Read more online.

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