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Monday, October 30, 2006

Adopting Older Children

In the state of Minnesota, over 600 kids need homes. Of those 600, 38% are between the ages of twelve and eighteen. Many adoption agencies agree that finding homes is much harder for older children than for babies and toddlers. Laurie Aaronson adopted a 17-year old girl through an organization called The Homecoming Project.
"Aaronson used The Homecoming Project, a federally funded Minnesota Adoption Resource Network experiment now in its third year, to find Maria. It lets kids describe themselves to help find their own families."
The Homecoming Project focuses its energy on placing adolescents in permanent homes. So far, twenty-three teens have found homes through the Homecoming Project, but fifty are still waiting. Read more online.

Friday, October 27, 2006

The Learning Center

The National Adoption Center has dedicated a section of it's web site to informing and encouraging adoptive parents. Called 'The Learning Center', it has links for on-line chats, message boards, and other resources.

"The Learning Center offers a variety of on-line adoption chats, education, information and support services."

Quick registration using a valid email address is all that's needed for you to participate in the chats and messages boards. It's a great way to connect with other adoptive parents and find some much-needed support.

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

Post Adoption Depression

The months leading up to an adoption are often hectic ones. Your schedule is filled with meetings, home evaluations, and plans for when and how the adoption will take place. Once you're home with your child, however, you're faced with new stresses and new activities. It can lead to post-adoption depression.

"Many of the suggestions recommended to lessen a child's trauma as she transitions to her new family could actually contribute to your feelings of isolation and depression. Allowing yourself to seek support and communication with other adults is vital to your emotional health."

The seven strategies and list of questions offered in this article from MSN can you help you be aware of, and manage, post-adoption depression.

Monday, October 23, 2006

Workplace Benefits For Adoption

It's becoming more common for companies to offer adoption benefits as part of their overall benefits package to employees. If, however, you find yourself working in a company that doesn't offer these benefits, this post on AdoptionBlogs.com offers some suggestions.
"The Adoption-Friendly Workplace, a resource center for those who advocate for workplace adoption benefits, recommends...strategies for prospective parents whose employers do not offer adoption assistance benefits..."
The post includes a step-by-step process you can take to try and persuade your employer to offer adoption benefits.

Saturday, October 21, 2006

Pennsylvania Turning It's Attention to Foster Children

Pennsylvania has created an "Office of Children and Families in the Courts" in an attempt to better facilitate the adoptions of foster children. Justice Max Baer said he hopes that about 20,000 abused and neglected children will find permanent homes more quickly, due to this new office.
"The new Office of Children and Families in the Courts will work to ensure that each child in foster care or a similar setting gets a permanent-placement plan within a year..."
Other improvements include more frequent court appearances, additional training for judges who handle foster and adoption cases, and a Roundtable for Children Initiative. The Roundtable will be a discussion forum where judges, child-welfare administrators, and other can come together to share ideas. Read more from Philly.com.

Thursday, October 19, 2006

Planning Your Adopted Child's Education

The costs of adoption are significant, especially if you're adopting internationally. By the time the process is complete, parents can find themselves in a tight financial situation, and the idea of saving for their children's college education seems an unattainable goal. But in Canada, they have a savings plan that can help Canadian parents, and offer a good model for parents in other countries to follow.
"...one of the biggest benefits of an RESP is the sense of security the plan provides by ear-marking the money specifically for your child's education. They're partly just a way to keep money safe from any other spending."
Though similar government-sponsored savings plans aren't available in the U.S., the Canadian plan offers a blueprint for parents wishing to save for their child's education. Learn more online.

Monday, October 16, 2006

Help For Adoptees Seeking Medical History

When it comes to personal health, most people want every advantage possible when battling things like cancer and heart trouble. But for people who have been adopted, finding detailed medical history can be close to impossible. With this in mind, a bill is currently under consideration in the New Jersey legislature that would allow adoptees to view their original birth certificate.
"For the past 26 years there's been a push for legislation to allow all people adopted in New Jersey to see their original birth certificates. Now, with changing attitudes about family reunions and increasing evidence that a person's medical history can help prevent and better manage some medical conditions, adoptees think they may finally have a shot at changing the law."
Birth parents who which to stay anonymous will have the option of having their names "scratched out" of the birth certificate, provided that they provide a complete medical history. Read more online.

Friday, October 13, 2006

Adoption and Safe Families Act Helps Children Find Permanent Homes

The Adoption and Safe Families act came into being nearly 10 years ago. In the time since it's inception, ten of thousands of children have been adopted into safe, loving homes. The bill includes time limits for foster care, special considerations for extreme conditions like physical abuse, and financial incentives for state agencies.
"Nearly 10 years laters, [Sen. Mike] DeWine and other cheerleaders of the law are celebrating the bill's successes: Foster adoptions have increased 64% nationwide..."
Some critics say the bill doesn't put enough emphasis on preventative and rehabilitative services for parents, and encourages courts to terminate parental rights too quickly. But Tom Atwood, president of the National Council for Adoption, believes that, while those issues may occur, they are not common.

Read more online.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006

Kenya to Centralize Adoption

A web site called The Standard posted an article today which says that the government of Kenya is going to establish a government body that will centralize child adoptions.

"[Moody] Awori said the Government would ratify international conventions on adoption and harmonize them with local laws in a bid to control the process."

HIV and Aids have ravished parts of Africa, including Kenya, where about 2 million children have been orphaned by the disease. All of those children need homes, and centralized adoption processes is an important first step.

Monday, October 09, 2006

Learn About Parental Leave Rights Before Adopting

Most people assume that they'll get time-off from work when they have a baby. What they don't know is that paid time-off isn't guaranteed. And rules for paid-time off might be different if you're adopting.
"...many young parents don't realize that any pay received during maternity leave often is funded through short-term disability insurance. Fail to sign up for the insurance... and you'll miss out on the benefit..."
If you're considering adoption, or if you've begun the adoption process, talk to your human resources department and find out your company's policy on maternity leave. Be sure to ask if the policy differs for adoptions.

Read more from the Orlando Sentinel.

Friday, October 06, 2006

Parenting Special Needs or Traumatized Children

A creative blog on AdoptionBlog.com give helpful tips for parents who adopt special needs children, or children who have suffered some sort of trauma. The child's anxiety level is referred to as a "bucket", and tips such as "no multi-tasking" are offered to help you keep your child's own "bucket" from overflowing.
"...lessening the frustration and anxiety in her bucket is the best way to help her, and give her the opportunity to use her self-regulating skills."
The list includes both "do" and "do not" suggestions.

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

How Much of Your Story Should You Share?

For adopted parents and their children, it's sometimes hard to know how much of your (and your child's) story you should share with others. In this post on AdoptionBlogs.com, Erin H shares her thoughts and experiences regarding her own adopted children and their process for deciding how much to share and with whom.
"I think it's important for adoptive parents to see what your child's comfort level is with sharing information, and guiding them (if needed) with coming up with appropriate responses to peoples questions."
Erin H also sees her children's adoption stories as opportunities to inspire others to consider adoption.

Monday, October 02, 2006

Foundation Aids Overseas Adoptions

Our Chinese Daughters Foundation was started in 1995 by Jane Liedtke, a year after she adopted her daughter from China. The Foundation exists to aid in the cultural difference and transitions that come with international adoption.

"Among other services, the foundation coordinates before- and after-adoption trips to China."

With offices in China and in Bloomington, Illinois, the Foundation is well-positioned and well-equipped to offer help and support to adoptive parents and their children.

Read the full article online.